Round Tuit Revisited

Cousin Ed was a big man. I mean, a big man. He and my father had barely known each other growing up, but had reconnected years later when Ed began working on a nearby Air Force base. Ed was the kind of man that got things done, and in that respect, he and my father could not have been more different. My father made list after list of things to do, and little ever got crossed off. When Ed came over he’d pull the list off the fridge with a grin, and look at my father, one of his eyelids sagging in a permanent half-wink, and grin like a schoolboy before getting to work.
Whenever Ed asked him if a certain project was done yet, my father would reply that he would get it done when he could “get around to it”. One birthday, after years of this broken record of an exchange, a Hallmark card showed up for my father from none other than Cousin Ed, and the inside was labeled in large letters “Round Tuit”. He said that he was officially sending my father the “round tuit” he had been waiting for all these years in order to get started on his projects.
Now, my father was by no means a lazy man. In fact he worked 60 hours+ a week for years running his own freelance writing business. But what is it about some tasks that makes us procrastinate? Why do we delay something we have taken the time to write down in order to remember to do it?

 

The Science of Procrastination

According to a report from the BBC, our brains have two areas that activate at different times depending on what activities we engage in. One is the attention network and the other is the default network. These networks are neural pathways within the brain. Think of them as a connection of way stations that serve as a railroad track between areas of the brain or your nervous system. For example, when you are playing the board game Operation with your five year old niece and trying with all your might to stop your hand from shaking as you remove the Butterflies in Cavity Sam’s stomach, and your little monster of a relative is barely suppressing an evil cackle, excitedly longing for that annoying buzzer to blow up in your face, your attention network is on high alert.
What people who have trouble with focus find is that their brains tend to drift into default state more easily, taking them away from the task at hand. This means they are not only more likely to stop mid project (not start at all), but are also much more prone to making mistakes while working, particularly if the work is not interesting to them. In one test, researchers occasionally interspersed female faces among a long and steady line of male visages. Testers were told to hit the space bar every time a face appeared except when it was a female face. Those with high mistake rates were the ones who struggled to activate and keep their attention systems engaged. But, if you think this may be you and are already feeling discouraged, simply turn it around and claim that you have a neural default system to rival the strength of The Mountain from Game of Thrones. Now that’s something to be proud of!

 

The Path Through Procrastination: Grit?

On the other side of the procrastination coin, is what Angela Duckworth has simply termed “Grit”. In her book of the same title, Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance and on her website, Duckworth defines the word as “…the tendency to sustain interest and effort toward very long term goals,” she delves into research that shows how this measure of “stick-to-it-iveness” outperforms IQ, test scores, physical well-being, and a host of other markers across industries to indicate who will and who will not be successful. Personally, I like to call this the “ability to get shit done”, but hey, Angela is the one who wrote the book.

In a book review in the New York Times, Judith Shulevitz breaks down the importance of grit into a simple math equation (don’t close the browser just yet, even my useless brain could grasp this one). If achievement of some sort is your goal, whether that is in a professional career or personal passion, then the formula looks like this:

Talent x Effort = Skill
Skill x Effort = Achievement

If you agree with this formula, which looks reasonable enough, then you will notice that effort (grit, in a sense) counts twice. Shulevitz goes on to argue that this is what makes the high achiever’s in Malcolm Gladwell’s Outliers capable of practicing for those interminable 10,000 hours. That’s why grit is more indicative of success. It’s simply a tool we need to pull more often from our toolbelts.

 

How to Keep Track of Your “Round Tuit”

I can hear you mumbling under your breath, “Okay, so my brain is different? I wasn’t born with the trait of hard work that some social psychologist re-branded and used to sell books? I just need to work harder? Thanks for the insight. Earth-shattering, no really it is.”

But wait, hold on, please. Just a moment before you go. There are practical solutions. You know that brain wandering referenced above? The tendency of the default system to overrule your attention system? There is a practice that can help with that, and it’s been around for thousands of years. It’s called mindfulness training, and one of its greatest benefits is simply that it teaches its practitioners how to live in the now, and train the wandering mind to wander a little bit less. Ignore Silicon Valley’s obsession and the Instagram posts about meditation and Matcha lattes and instead look at the research. It’s impressive.

And what about grit? Duckworth says simply to find something you already have interest in, practice at it a lot, and (most importantly) make a connection in your brain between this work and how it can improve the world. This higher purpose can help keep you both intrinsically and extrinsically motivated. Your practice here will train your ability to set a task and achieve it, which will bleed into the rest of your life.

And if all this fails or sounds too difficult, there is always the blue collar approach. Find a smart-ass, hardworking family member to write the words “Round Tuit” on an over-stylized, five dollar greeting card, or legal pad paper, or any scrap of trash and just keep it in your pocket. When you realize you are procrastinating, simply pull it out, stand it up on your desk in a place of honor, and get to work.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Pros and Cons of Fu*k You Money

The term Fu*k You Money is an idea that came to prominence back in the 1980s via books like The Show Business Nobody Knows and films like Heat with Burt Reynolds. For those of you unfamiliar with it’s meaning, the idea Fu*k You Money is simple: Accumulate enough money to where you can live off of its vast supply without ever having to worry about wage paying work ever again, or in a more realistic scenario, enough money socked away to where you could quit your current job today and not be worried about paying your bills for an extended period as you look for the next. Now, instead of speaking to the reality of achieving such a goal (however, it’s more doable than you may think), I want to look at the pros and cons it can have on your performance if you achieve it.
Early retirement bloggers like the Mad Fientist write extensively on the topic of how to achiever financial independence, as well as how to fill the void of work afterward if you do hang ‘em up in your thirties or forties. Occasionally they even touch on the topic of this article but usually not in much detail.
Think about all the things in your job that you don’t enjoy, all the parts that are a total waste of time. Think about the last time your boss asked for feedback on an idea, and all the talking heads and yes men bobbed their chins up and down with empty smiles on their faces, eager to curry favor? On the flip side think of that last time you had to meet a deadline and your motivation and drive spiked along with what I like to call the simple ability to “get shit done”. Think of the promotion you have been striving towards and the focus and work you have put towards achieving it. Fu*k You Money can have a drastic effect on all of these situations.

Pros of Fu*k You Money

In a Harvard Business Review article titled “The Elements of Great Communication, According to Aristotle”, Scott Edinger writes that Aristotle was essentially correct when he identified the three key elements of communication thousands of years ago in ethos (credibility), pathos (emotional connection), and logos (logic). While those are very stripped down definitions, they will work for what we are talking about. In modern day work places, specifically large corporations, high performing employees with the courage to speak out in an open and honest way about what is working and what is not working, what is useful tradition and what is meaningless bureaucracy, are few and far between. The key part of that previous sentence was “high performing”. Most employees offering criticism of the status quo are poor performers who are viewed as making excuses (low in ethos) or malcontents who are always complaining about something or other, so we routinely ignore their comments (low in pathos).
However, anyone who has been able to earn and save Fu*k You Money, likely is a capable employee simply by means of their ability to be organized, financially responsible, and goal oriented. These employees, finally relieved of the “I need a paycheck this Friday to pay rent” phenomenon are now able to communicate and work with supervisors, direct reports, or fellow employees in a way that fosters open communication. As a solid performer or even high achiever, you have likely already accumulated a piggy bank full of ethos and pathos. When you sprinkle a little bit of logos on top, your message is likely to be heard. Without the fear of “ruining your reputation” or “ stirring the pot”, you will be amazed at the results your open and honest feedback can produce. Is this something you could begin practicing now, without Fu*k You Money piled under your mattress? Of course you can. And the office would be a better place if you did.

Cons of Fu*k You Money

However, Fu*k You Money can carry with it some negatives as well, as crazy as that may sound. But don’t worry I can hear you talking to your computer screen right now, “Hey whatever those issues are, I’ll take ‘em.” First of all….well, duh, agreed. But that doesn’t mean they aren’t worth thinking about.
According to numerous studies, as incentives and compensation increase, motivation actually decreases. Yep, you read that right. The idea of making more money may get someone to work hard or longer. But once the person has the money, the opposite can happen. Most importantly, the decrease is actually found in the person’s intrinsic motivation, a much more powerful force, and one tied more closely to fulfillment and happiness. Extrinsic motivations in fact tend to relate to lower engagement among employees. So if you have saved up your Fu*k You Money, you now have the freedom and capital to speak openly and honestly, but will you have the motivation to do so? Changing an organization is tough work, an uphill battle if you will. Now that you can rock the boat, will you be able to scrounge up the gumption to do so?
We can also take this idea further, even outside the workplace. While being over stressed has been linked to numerous health issues, many of them eventually fatal, it is also clear that stress in the right instances and situations (usually short term), drives performance. Our bodies and minds can use stress to reach for higher efficiencies in order to meet deadlines. The trick here is as Fu*k You Money begins to accumulate, employees need to take steps to move their work in a direction that they are more passionate about. Focus on your intrinsic motivations and build routines that keep you focused. As the saying goes, motivation is what gets your started, but habit is what keeps you going.

Upgrade Your Mental Software

You’ve likely seen both sides of the coin. When someone is physically fit to a seemingly inhuman level, or mentally capable beyond understanding, we say things like, “He’s a machine,” or “She’s not human.” On the other hand, if someone doesn’t show the emotions or behaviors we consider normal (think Mark Zuckerberg recently in front of the Senate), then we refer to that person as a “robot”. Whatever your personal opinion, of Artificial Intelligence, however, there is certainly something we can gain from the metaphor.
On a recent podcast, Aubrey Marcus made the assertion that everyone has routines. Whether they are good or bad, by adding small, valuable steps into your current routine, you will eventually create  a habit. Now once something becomes a habit, it then begins to seep into your unconscious, and you will begin to take the action without thinking about it, thereby skipping the time necessary for your brain to create an excuse. He says this is like “upgrading our software.”
For those of you that just left the farm for the big city, Holly Golightly style, here is the definition of software: “the programs used to direct the operation of a computer…”
While we are not robots and don’t want to be (no matter how awesome Ex Machina was) the idea that you can upgrade your software, as Marcus explains, by building habits into your daily routines is a lesson too valuable to let go.

Consider this example:
You’re a normal American. You don’t like going to the gym after work. In fact you hate it so much you pay for a monthly membership that you don’t use. But you like the sauna, and you like reading Danielle Steele (everyone has a guilty pleasure). So you change your routine. Every time you get to the gym, you spend ten minutes in the sauna. You then workout. After you finish leaving half your water weight on the Stairmaster, you hit the showers. After that you treat yourself to a chapter Danielle’s latest masterpiece, either in the gym somewhere on a couch if you’re bougie enough for that kind of gym or in the front seat of your car in the gym parking lot if you are like the rest of us.
By adding a positive activity before something you don’t like, and then a positive activity also directly afterward, you are building habits and routines into your daily ritual, giving your mind things to look forward to that are directly tied to the healthy habit. If the sauna is at the gym, and your brain associates Danielle Steele with the gym parking lot, then your brain will want you to go to the gym. Something you used to talk yourself out of is now a part of your day that you can’t live without. In fact, when done correctly, you will stress at the thought of skipping a day, as your brain will crave the endorphins created both by these two pleasurable activities and the exercise itself. Talk about hotwiring your brain!
So think of something you wish you had more “willpower” to accomplish and instead build a positive routine around it. Upgrade your mental software to the point where you are just following your own programming without a second thought, and watch the results follow.

Make Smaller Maps

The bigger the map, the bigger the potential mistakes. Work with closer goals and course correct along the way.

Show of hands, who has been to the Mountains of Kong? Oh really? I doubt it. The Mountains of Kong are a non-existent mountain range that magically spanned the continent of Africa for much of the 1800s. James Rennell, Johann Reinecke, and John Cary all displayed this massive range on their maps and engravings, while famous explorers such as René Caillié, Lemon Lander, and Hugh Clapperton all included this on their maps as well. There are various lessons you could derive from this story, but the one I want to focus on relates to a phrase from Scott Berkun’s book A Year Without Pants. Not only does the book have one of the best names ever penned, but useful nuggets are buried throughout its pages regarding modern work and the accompanying challenges around remote workspaces, project management, and culture.
One of the more striking bits of wisdom in A Year Without Pants is Berkun’s supplication to his readers to “Make smaller maps.” Berkun’s point is that when creating a road map for a project or goal, if you set out every piece in advance for a large project, all the way to completion, and then attempt then to follow it, you run the larger risk of being drastically wrong. However, if you work with smaller maps, simply moving yourself in the direction of where you need to go, or even think you need to go, you are much more likely to discover mistakes and course correct along the way. You are not blinded by the destination way off in the distance, leading you further afield. You instead focus on the goal just in front of you, which in turn moves you in the right direction. The faulty pieces of your map come more easily to light and you can fix them, creating a stronger product or process.
So work with smaller maps, make sure your progress is accurate and building soundly upon your previous steps. While you certainly need to be aware of what is on the horizon, if you have created a map with a destination deep in the Mountains of Kong, and are so gung-ho about getting there that you fail to realize your blunder until it is too late, you are going to have a long, embarrassing road home.

Wait…Be More Impatient?

We all know that person or have that friend (or if we are being honest, it is ourselves…) that is impatiently waiting for something that is years away. It is often a promotion we want to earn, a skill we want to master, or a job we want to have. We talk about it constantly, dream about it on a nightly basis, and oftentimes pin our very happiness to it. We don’t allow ourselves to be content, because this thing, this change in our life, is the key to the rest of our lives. Or so we think.

But that is not necessarily the point I want to make here. Let’s go in a different direction. What is striking, and often blind to us and our friends and family that, is that this impatience is not wrong, but just grossly misplaced. Patience is a virtue, but only in the right context. While we pine away for mastery of a skill, appointment to a job, or a lifestyle above and beyond our current means, we are extraordinarily patient with the activities that will get us there.

Gary Vaynerchuk makes a great point in a recent video when he says that we need to “Stop being patient with the micro and impatient with the macro. Impatient about milestones you want to hit years from now but wasting time watching TV.” The macro is that lifestyle you want, whether it is a larger house or nicer apartment with a fancy car, or an early retirement cruising the Caribbean. That’s the big picture. That’s the macro. It is likely far away. However, the micro, what you are doing today to get yourself there, the steps you are taking in that direction, is the micro. What work have you put towards learning the language you always wish you knew? What work have you put towards learning the guitar? To saving enough money to go to Europe? To learning that skill that will get you promoted? Or offered a new job somewhere else? Oh you bought a seventh jacket to add to your closet but don’t have enough money to go to Bali? You don’t have the body you want because you go to happy hour every day after work instead of the gym? You didn’t get promoted, but you’re caught up on every season of Survivor? My sympathies.

Too many people need to flip their behaviors. Be patient with the macro. Those are significant life changes. However, to make those things happen, get more impatient, much more impatient, with the micro.

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Tell Your Boss to Go Shove Those “KPIs”

I see it all the time with new leaders. Note, I don’t say here young leaders, but new leaders. They are worried about one metric or the other and are trying to figure out what is wrong it. Or why it is off. They run report after report and pore over all the spreadsheets they can lay their hands on until they figure it out. They finally have it narrowed down to one Key Performance Indicator. One piece of data out of the thousands of minutiae that they have considered. They often then come to me with their triumph in tow, like a freshly stuffed animal back from the taxidermist ready to be hung on their cubicle wall. “Look what I’ve found! If we can just get this one metric moving in the right direction, we’ll be set! It will add X dollars to the topline or X dollars to the bottom line. What do you think?”

In these situations I usually have a couple thoughts or comments. Generally I will let the leader move forward with whatever their plan is and have them report back to me. If the results are good, then we may have found something important that can then be shared within the organization. If the results are poor, then it comes back to one thing: Don’t get so focused on the measurables that you forget to count the things that can’t be counted. The talent of the people on your team, the messaging you used to deliver the new idea, the execution of the new idea, the timing of the new idea, the mindset of your team, etc. Running a business or a team has just as much or more to do with the people you hire and how you influence their state of mind, as it does with the metrics you use to run it. Never, ever forget to count that which can’t be measured.

Before You Start that Pros & Cons List, Read This

It’s the most natural thing in the world. You have a big decision in front of you. Do you quit your job and find a new one? Do you marry the person you are dating? Do you break up with the person you are dating? Do you move cities? Buy a new car? As rational beings our instincts are to break down these decisions to the most basic elements of good and bad, put the pieces into our mental scales, and see which side comes down heavier.

However, Bozoma Saint John, the Chief Brand Officer at Uber, would have you skip these lists altogether, and she has a wonderful point, which she explores in detail towards the end of this podcast interview with Tim Ferriss. To keep it short and sweet, her advice is this: Very often, when you are making pro and con lists, you already know what you should do, and you are simply using these lists in an attempt talk yourself into a bad idea or talk yourself out of a good one. You do this because what you already know to be the right decision is not an easy one. You are trying to use logic, reason, or rationality to make the decision you want rather than the decision you should. Because one is easy. But the other is right. There is a lot of power in that thought.

This is not to say that you should never use analysis, which is obviously an incredible tool in your tool belt. However, there are many times when you know what the right move is, what will make you happy, what will make others happy, and what will be fulfilling. Don’t muddy the waters. Make the decision and move forward. Every decision is not a gut decision, or one that your “spirit” knows to be right as Saint John describes it, but often for the big ones, listing the pros and cons is an exercise in futility.

 

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